The Roles We Play

THE ROLES WE PLAY

Life is a play & we're the players. We play different characters everyday, every moment in our lives. But what we play less is 'being ourselves'. We play these roles because we don't want to lose their company. A person is at his truest within his friends because there ain't just one type of family. Within family, we play a son/daughter, brother/sister, father/mother etc. and between these characters, our true essence is buried deep underneath our plastic expressions. 

In every friends circle, family; there're clichéd characters like one would be too introvert, outgoing, mature, insensitive, blatant etc. and what we do, like others, is finding a correct person who's wavelength matches ours & thus being comfortable around them. With friends people feel comfortable because they know that their comments are going to be taken is good context, even if the words are crucifying, but they understand each other well which matters the most. Everyone wants to lead a hassle-free life which is clearly not possible. We unwittingly come in contact with those we 'imagined' to be the exact opposite of ourselves. And in most cases: like magnets, unlike forces attract & like forces repel. Its a human nature to get attracted to those who avoids us. When we meet them, we play a role that despises our previous roles & evolve into a completely new being. Whether it's good or bad is a matter of perspective. Sometimes, unconsciously, we say things that does a damage beyond repair. Sometime's even a complete lifetime falls short of repairing it. Like feelings are abstract, the wound is also abstract & usually it's diagnosis is also too late. 

At home, a person is casual in another way. Certain problems are liable on to the family hence 'family' becomes the last resort to share. And no matter what, a person has to obediently behave well at home. Sometime's 'generation gap' becomes a reason for crossing ankles at home but this 'GP' has been there since the existence of humanity. Whatever the elders can't understand or like comes under the 'law-book' of GP. So what the younger person feels about GP is 'its just a bunch of guidelines'. Even the family members have gone through this GP-phase.

But as I said, there are more than one type of family. A family is a group of people who care & stand-by you through good & trying times. Hence, a good friend-circle, a good rapport between any two beings are eligible as a 'family'. In my personal opinion, a smaller family is always appreciated because there are lesser 'conflicts' within the family. The internal conflicts are more poisonous than external conflicts as they make the whole 'family' shallow from within resulting in no moral support what-so-ever to retreat. 

While we are to meet someone, we play or rather try to portray a 'good' self. We are too afraid to let go of the delusion of 'being under scrutiny'. But all of us are to be blamed for it & like I've written in my earlier posts too, we were and are to judgmental about those around us. And what better way to judge a person by his nature than his deeds. In different Indian epic's the one thing that stands out common is the importance of 'Karma' i.e. the deeds. According to them, we are defined by what we do. 

The basic rule of playing these characters, like I said above, is that we don't want to spoil our 'image' and want to be nice to everyone be it family, friends etc. We are so involved in maintaining our image that we forget 'being ourselves' quote. And even I'm not quiet a supporter of 'being yourself' tagline as everyone is different and we don't know if we play 'ourselves', what might be the outcome. That dreaded fear of losing the company creates a chaos in our head due to which we can't concentrate. These things require a lot of time & patience. 

Ultimately, this is my first post without any quote. The things we learn from playing these 'roles' are: being able to understand others, evolved maturity, better understanding, clear view of 'to-do' & 'not-to-do' things. Maturity has nothing to do with age, but with the individual's thinking & attitude towards life. We all are stage actors & our mind is the director of the play. But the movie is never released in public for they're part of it!




Happy Playing :)