The Blame Game

THE BLAME GAME

"The difference between greatness and mediocrity is often how an individual views a mistake." - Nelson Boswell

We all go through various emotions, situations in a span of single day hence we're extremely prone to work under pressure, which leads to some or the other minor/major mistake. When people are asked, "How come you make such a mistake?", they reply, "I'm not God!". This is our notion of God that he or she's a person - a rather abstract one, who never commits a mistake. But what I don't understand is that if you made a mistake, why to worsen things by not accepting it?! I mean if people 'really' follow God & his religious books, where in them is it mentioned that accepting a mistake is a sin?

Mistake's are neither deliberate nor accidental, I guess that is why the word still exists. Accident means something always having a drastic effect whereas mistake's are meant to be learnt from, even the most heinous ones. And like accidents, mistakes also take place due to miscommunication. Sometime's people can't hear the other person & thus begin to 'assume'. No one here is right or wrong & we do not have a right to judge them. So if you can't hear the other person, try asking 'again'. It won't hurt neither parties. But sometime's situations arise where the situation itself isn't favorable like person A is in angry mood & hence you cannot risk a punch on your face by asking him/her. But in this case, the only action to be taken is to be 'patient'. I know this is too time consuming but it's the best resort. In some cases, our action to act quickly results into a mistake. And even here 'patience' is the key,like I said. We act fast because we want to impress other/s. And while acting faster, we either make or break our 'image'. If we complete the task efficiently & perfectly - we are lauded, if we can't complete the task or if we even complete it but not perfectly - we are bombed. So here 'patience' and 'salvation' are linked together but as we know, if we do something dedicatedly, it is bound to complete in time with perfection.

Now above was the initiation or rather 'inception' of a mistake, the mistake is followed by a 'cover-up'. That's right, a 'cover-up' is the process which includes - deception, lies. When we're 'covering' our act, we're blaming someone else other than us for the concerned matter/mistake. We don't want to take the responsibility of our own act. Even cover-up's are of two types: (a) In which we neither blame nor support anyone thus transforming ourselves into a 'political-diplomatic'. (b) In which we blame some other person for our deeds. According to me, (a) is more crucifying than (b) - because it is quite difficult for some people to be 'quiet'. But at the end of the day regardless of what 'M.O' of our cover-up is, there is one thing that if left in the person that is a 'secret'. Now no matter whether a person can keep a secret nicely, we always find it difficult to maintain the secrecy of the 'secret' when we are involved in it. It becomes a burden when the 'secret' starts & ends with us.

"Admit your errors before someone else exaggerates them." - Andrew V. Mason

Thus, more & more can be said when we've to blame someone. We just need to do our job nicely if not dedicatedly. And if a situation shall arise when we have committed a mistake, we should wait for the right opportune moment to accept that & direct our efforts in the direction of improving ourselves, making ourselves proud. And like I had said earlier, we need to be 'patient', 'opportunistic', 'optimistic' & most importantly - 'dedicated' to whatever work we do. We should just remember one thing that "We should never let our mistakes take form of a 'crime'."

I'd like to conclude this post by a wonderful yet-not-so-abstruse quote by a great songwriter, singer & composer himself:

"A mistake is to commit a misunderstanding." - Bob Dylan